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Getting Beyond Small Talk
Fragility vs. Truth
Summer gatherings of family and friends offer opportunities for important conversations, but such discussions rarely occur. After catching up on the latest marriages, babies, and graduations, the conversation stalls, then regains vigor in the form of gossip concerning those who aren’t there.
Advised since childhood that the topics of politics and religion are taboo in polite company (and seeing what happens when cranky uncle brings up his MAGA support at the family reunion, it seems that the age-old advice has some wisdom), small talk and gossip prevail.
But even mundane small talk about the weather is testy territory these days. Talking about global warming is a definite downer, so don’t let conversations regarding the strange weather conditions lead you down that path.
“It stresses me out to think about climate and social issues. I have to protect my mental health.”
Also, let’s not talk about Aunty, who lost her life savings due to medical debt. Or, the younger generation who are still living with roommates well into their 30’s, as housing is simply unaffordable.
“Let’s keep the convo upbeat, for godssakes. I’m on vacation; I need to relax!”
